A story from a student...
“Since middle school I have struggled to get along with my dad and the only thing we had in common was our conflict. The distance made me feel alone and unloved. Now, I know this wasn’t true but at the time those feelings carried over to my friends and they either moved away or ditched me making me feel the same way. I started trying to fit in by wearing the right clothes, acting like whoever I wanted to like me etc., but none of this worked.
In the 9th grade, I tried marijuana and it felt right. I fit in with this group and they accepted me when I smoked with them, so I kept using. Smoking weed became all I cared about, but I had to hide that from my parents. I realized I didn’t like the double life so I tried to quit but decided it wasn’t that big of deal. I tried to quit several times after that but I couldn’t, until my mom finally found out and I had to quit. In 10th grade I relapsed on prescription pills, which I thought would be fine because my problem was weed not pills. I started taking a lot of pills and selling them along with marijuana but I was not smoking.
I eventually started smoking again and within two weeks, I was back to smoking every day, multiple times a day. I got caught again and my parents found out about everything…the buying, selling and stealing. That’s when they called Pathways2Life and I started going to the Thursday night group for any high school student in pain. I started realizing I needed a change in my life and the group showed me that I could be real because they were real. God revealed to me how my life needed to change and He started surrounding me with healthy people. My relationship with my parents has gotten better although it’s not perfect and we give each other grace. I’ve been in the group since February 2015 and in the fall, I became a student leader. Another cool thing is I get to tell my story to high school students so that hopefully it will help them and they won’t have to experience the same pain and consequences that I went through.”
- Henri, Pathways2Life Leader in Training
A Glimpse into a Pathways2Life family crisis...
A mother came into the Pathways2Life office and asked for help on how to deal with her son who was struggling. During the process of weekly sessions with the mom, her son got a DUI then began to do better for a while. Later he was caught with marijuana, stole his mother’s car, got into an accident, and was caught with marijuana again. Her son is now in our weekly Pathways2Life group and receiving weekly counseling through our ministry. We are still working with the parents on developing a parenting paradigm that includes both support and consequences.
“Pathways2Life has been an awesome help for us. There are times when we have been lost not knowing what to do or what to say. Having teenagers is hard enough, but having teenagers in trouble made our lives very complicated. Pathways2Life has been with us all the way through this journey. Their words, their advice and their experience have been great support during times when we thought that there is no way out. Just knowing this great team of people has been and will be there to support us, is a feeling hard for me to describe. Without Pathways2LifeI don’t know where my family would be. Thank God we found them!”
– Mother of a High School Student
POINTS NORTH ARTICLE May 2014
Turning Tragedy Into Testament - Sherry Ajluni paves the way for parents
Written by Carl Danbury
" ...her foundation shaken to its core by the 2010 suicide of her 21-year-old addicted son Brandon...And it helped her embark on a passionate journey to help others, so that Brandon’s death could be used as a catalyst for drug awareness and helping others affected by addiction."
“Addiction can happen to anyone today,” Ajluni said. “Parents are caught off guard because our kids look so normal to us. It’s such a preventable thing and I don’t want to see others go through what we did,” Ajluni added.
“The two most difficult, yet most essential things for parents to get past initially are the shame or guilt they feel, and the ultimate realization that they have absolutely no control over their child’s addiction. The parents can’t fix the problem for their child — the addict has to want to fix it themselves,” Ajluni stated."
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